A Trip to Toyland
We use electrical devices constantly in our day to day lives. An alarm wakes us up in the morning, lights brighten our walk to the bathroom, an electric toothbrush sits on the counter, and then we make coffee, grabbing a quick bite from the fridge before heading off to work by car. We groove to the radio, ride the elevator, answered the phone... With electrical components assisting with almost every single daily task, why wouldn't we use them for sexual enhancement too?
Some people feel strongly that vibrators aren't something to bring into their sex life for a variety of reasons: it's
"not natural" it creates "lazy orgasms", women become dependent on the vibrator to achieve orgasm. In reality, most men are just afraid their wife’s vibrator will replace their penis.
At some point, we all decide what's "natural" and
"right". and what isn't, when it comes to our personal sex lives – but those decisions and opinions can change. Maybe you've already altered your viewpoint somewhat just from reading this eBook. The point of the matter is, only you and your partner can decide what works and what feels right for your relationship, and no one else. There are a great many things that can help a woman achieve orgasm during intercourse, and vibrators are just one of the options.
When things get hot and heavy and you reach for the drawer next to your bed, you may encounter some resistance. Why? If you've got a treasure trove of lubes, condoms, toys and vibrators hidden away, it could give the wrong first impression. Most women will already know if you've had other partners, but they probably don't want to be reminded of it in the heat of the moment. Besides, having everything ready at your fingertips will let her on to the fact that you planned for sex, which in the first stages of a new relationship could dampen that
"heat of the moment" sort of feeling.
So what's a guy to do? Be prepared, but don't pull out the big guns for a while. Use your
favorite brand of condom and keep everything else, other than any necessary all-purpose lube, to yourself. After you've been together for a while and you've shared a handful of intimate experiences, feel free to delve into the toy arena. Just don’t make a big scene about the fact that you've used the toys with someone else.
This leads to a discussion about sex toys and health concerns. One of the most important accessories in your 'toy box' should be a cleaner specifically created for sex toys, and you should use it each and every time you lug them out of their hiding place. Although some movies and TV shows talk about putting your toys in the dishwasher, it is a really a bad idea for most materials. Dishwasher water can be too hot, and might break down the material of many an expensive toy in just a few washes. Of course, nothing with batteries or moving parts should ever go into the dishwasher anyway, but you already knew that.
Instead, get a lint-free cloth and a bottle of toy cleaner to keep it on hand. Spray the liquid into the towel, and wipe off every crevice and curve possible. Rinse it with water and let it dry a few hours before putting it away. Most sex shops carry one or two different brands of cleaner, and you want one specifically made for a woman's very gentle lady parts; that means unscented and hypoallergenic. In a pinch, soapy water will usually do, but be careful not to submerge anything electric!