Myth: If your wife doesn't have an orgasm every time, it means you are a terrible lover.
Reality: Orgasms aren't something that one can 'give' to another person. The journey all the way to the orgasm phase is effected by a variety of factors, like emotional state and physical preparedness. Communicating with your partner during sexual acts helps increase the likelihood of orgasm.
Myth: Sex isn't great sex without both partners reaching a simultaneous orgasm.
Reality: If you can orgasm at the same time as your partner, consider it a blessing but not a right. Most folks don't orgasm at the same time as their partners because achieving orgasm is such a complex dance, so if you are able, focus your energies better where it counts.
Myth: Sex without orgasm is a pointless
Reality: Not everyone will achieve orgasm during every sexual experience. What constitutes pleasure differs greatly between each of us not only from person to person, but day to day as well. Orgasm certainly isn't the only pleasure your wife can experiences!
Myth: If she can't orgasm with just a penis inside of her, there's something wrong with her.
Reality: Women need more than vaginal insertion to reach orgasm. Almost all women need direct or indirect clitoral stimulation to come, and these sex positions in this eBook are specifically demonstrated and described to help your partner achieve orgasm through sexual intercourse by ensuring her clitoris has adequate stimulation in a variety of positions!
Every person goes through a pre-set series of steps to reach orgasm, whether they are male or female, alone or with a lover, masturbating or having sex. Every level achieved is built on the one that came before it, and without those foundational steps, the ones that follow can't happen. With a clear beginning and an end, there's a fixed definition to the process, and each item along the orgasmic path has a reason and requirement to be there. All of the anatomical parts have roles to play as well, although some parts are smaller than others. There's a beautiful rhythm and flow to the entire process, each part focused in one direction.
Researchers use varying terms to describe the orgasmic process, but no matter what it's called, the steps remain the same: a woman thinks about sex, her body follows the direction of her mind and becomes aroused, and then she moves into sexual tension, a peak, orgasm and then a quick flow back to her normal resting phase. Many women can start the process all over again are able to achieve multiple orgasms in a relatively short period of time, much quicker than most men.
To understand better where your partner is along the sexual response cycle, I've written out the four stages here: foreplay, climax and release and the markers to look for, take note of, and work towards.