Never say Never
If you read through this entire eBook, you'll know that a woman need a lot of stimulation, more than just her physical body in order to orgasm. She needs a lot of time, affection and mood enhancers too. It's a complex dance, but not an impossible one to learn and master.
To get your gal to the place where she feels safe and secure to experience orgasm, where her body can do nothing but release, you are going to have to woo her. Really, truly put her up on a pedestal and treat her like the goddess that she is. When she feels like she is desired and adored, she will open up like a flower for you.
To get into this mindset, you might just need a slight attitude adjustment. Instead of asking what's wrong with your partner, why she can't orgasm, why she's not reacting the way you expect her to, you need to start asking how you can change your tactic, what you can do to make a difference. Tell her how much you love her, that you find her so stunningly beautiful. Tell her how badly you want to jump her! When she's not in the mood or stressed out, share her load and help her finish whatever it is she needs to get done in order to relax. Think about wooing her as a long-term process, one that continues with each moment you spend with her.
When you really want to have sex, start the foreplay phase with soft caresses, whispered sweet nothings, and lots of physical and emotional appreciation. Ask her to tell you what she likes and dislikes. Avoid touching her genital area completely at first, until she starts to exhibit some of the physical signs of arousal - the kinds that she can't control or hide. Once her skin flushes, her eyes dilate, she starts to squirm and get breathless, then it's time for you to move on to the heavy petting.
Get her into a comfortable position and try fingering her for a little while – check out my eBook “My Naughty Fingers” for all the instruction you'll need. She might need lubricant, so make sure that you warm it in your hand first before placing it on her body. You don't want to shock her out of the dreamy, romantic feel that you've worked so hard to cultivate.
Play with her a bit. Explore her clitoral head, frenulum, front commissure and vaginal opening. Touch her breasts, nibble her neck, kiss her everywhere, and tell her how amazing she looks. Put a spell on her, use your hands, your lips and your voice to bring her to orgasm.
When she begins to show the signs of her climax phase and is closing in on orgasm, then it is time to enter her. Choose a position where she has a lot of the control, so she can decide how fast or slow things move, how deep or shallow you penetrate. Go gently, and watch her face constantly to see how she is feeling and how close she is to reaching orgasm. Don't ask her the tacky “Are you there yet?”, but do try to be vocal – tell her how much fun you are having, ask her to describe how good something feels. Don't worry if she doesn't get there, because it's rather unlikely during your first concerted effort. Eventually, she'll find her peak... and you can have a whole lot of fun trying!
It may take her more than twenty minutes of direct clitoral hood stimulation for her to orgasm, so try your best to hold out for your own climax as long as possible. If you try this tactic a few times over and she still doesn't orgasm after an hour or more of stimulation, read through this eBook again. Review the positions that offer the most G-Spot or clitoral stimulation, and attempt a lovemaking session with a few of those. Work on your fitness, so you can contort yourself into the more difficult positions to give her something totally surprising to work with.
Be kind and respectful if she still doesn't come, knowing that she will still enjoy the experience of being close to you. You can also ask her to show you how she pleases herself, if she's able to orgasm solo. If she can come alone, the problem is probably a matter of her not getting the right kind of stimulation with you. Try to recreate similar situations that mimic her private orgasms and you will slowly find a way to do it during sex, too.